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Is It the Parents' Fault?
Not Really...
I think that a lot of the time when kids make excuses bases on their parents it is a cop out. But not always. I think that everyone is shaped by the circumstances in their life and parents are a large part of that.
As I have gotten older I have drawn connections with the way I am and how my dad, my mother and her boyfriends have effected the person I am today. I try really hard not to state those things as excuses, but as a general fact that will help me to become the person I want to be.
I didn't see my dad for several years when I was younger, and I've paralleled that with the abandonment issues I've faced with the men in my life; usually ones that haven't abandoned me but I'm all paranoid about them leaving...
My mother had a sociopathic boyfriend for several years when I was very young. I was five and just learning how to handle different situations and all those baseline things you learn when you're first becoming cognitive. I feel that I learned to do the things I was told out of fear- and that I now have to teach myself how to do them for better reasons.
All the things that kids face when they're growing up do indeed effect them, but I don't really think they should be used as excuses. If you're old enough to recognize that you're doing something wrong and that there's a cause for it, you're old enough to try to change. I think that people should do everything they can to do that. Even though it's hard. Trust me, I know. But seriously, there's no better feeling than being able to say "Here's a problem, here's how I got here, now I'm gonna fix it."
As I have gotten older I have drawn connections with the way I am and how my dad, my mother and her boyfriends have effected the person I am today. I try really hard not to state those things as excuses, but as a general fact that will help me to become the person I want to be.
I didn't see my dad for several years when I was younger, and I've paralleled that with the abandonment issues I've faced with the men in my life; usually ones that haven't abandoned me but I'm all paranoid about them leaving...
My mother had a sociopathic boyfriend for several years when I was very young. I was five and just learning how to handle different situations and all those baseline things you learn when you're first becoming cognitive. I feel that I learned to do the things I was told out of fear- and that I now have to teach myself how to do them for better reasons.
All the things that kids face when they're growing up do indeed effect them, but I don't really think they should be used as excuses. If you're old enough to recognize that you're doing something wrong and that there's a cause for it, you're old enough to try to change. I think that people should do everything they can to do that. Even though it's hard. Trust me, I know. But seriously, there's no better feeling than being able to say "Here's a problem, here's how I got here, now I'm gonna fix it."
Sometimes
I think it really just depends on what kind of structure they've been raised in. For example, if the kid's parents were a happy, loving couple that never fought around their child and were together for a long time until an unexpected divorce, but continued to care for the child kindly and made sure not to MENTION the 'woes' of divorce they may be facing, it's probably not their fault. If they help their kid through problems like a divorce, then it shows they really are trying as parents and the kid simply is using it as an excuse.
Yes!
I think parents are definitely responsible for the emotional problems of their children. As the middle child, and only girl in my family I've always been treated with less respect than my brothers and my parents have always pressured me to be perfect whereas they allow for my brothers to slack off as long as they're "trying". Not to mention all of us as children having to deal with the abusive nature of our father, and the oppression brought forth by our mother. With that in mind, over the years I have found myself struggling with depression because of the way I have been treated and the things I have had to deal with since I was young. And I really don't think I would have these problems if it weren't for my parents. I don't consider myself to be just another spoiled brat who has behavioral problems because their parents won't buy them a new car, but I do know that my depression is brought forth by my parent's mistreatment of me.
NEXT TIME ON U TELL US
This week's theme made me start to think of another issue in the world today that I feel very strongly about. Every day the media is all around us. We watch TV, listen to the radio, listen to music, read magazines, and hear gossip. Just think how much of this media lowers our self-confidence. Everywhere you look, there are ads about losing 10 lbs before bikini season. It's like no one can feel comfortable in a bathing suit unless you're skinny! Next week I want you guys to submit ways which you think the media lower our self-confidence, how you feel about it, and what they should stay instead to keep us positive!
And, as always, don't forget to send in themes!
And, as always, don't forget to send in themes!
Hello! I'm Taylor, I'm 17 (in Grade 12) and I moved to Canada from Georgia about 3 years ago. I'll be moving back in a year to go to university. I've been with PPJs for a few months, but I've been an avid reader for much longer than that! I spend almost all my time on the computer or making jewelry; crafts are my passion. I love listening to music, and I play French Horn. I also collect ducks and flip flops. I hate winter, especially ice, but unfortunately there's a lot of that in Canada.
Taylor's comment: I don't think it's parents' fault most of the time. Remember, this is all purely fiction but, in Nineteen Minutes by Jodi Picoult, a teenager, Peter goes on a killing spree in his high school. A messed up teenager, right? But his parents never did anything wrong raising him. They were loving. caring, helpful, etc according to the book. Peter's brother, who was raised by the same parents in the same home, turned out fine. He was smart, athetic, popular etc, but Peter was the total opposite. It couldn't have been his parents' fault because his brother was raised the same way. This book really got me thinking about this subject because, before this, I always blamed parents.
I think problems with kids has to do with their surroundings everywhere, not just at home, and their attitudes toward their surroundings. Peter's home life was fine, but he was teased and bullied at school, and maybe that's why he turned out the way he did. I think the situation in people's homes can have a affect, but other places/people/circumstances can too. I read some statistics the other day about how many times a child hears a positive statement during the day and how often he/she hears a negative statement. The difference in negative and positive was astounding. I think society in general is very negative, and it rubs off on kids especially. Just think how much better off we'd be if we heard more positive than negative comments in our day.m