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Amber, 21 from District of Columbia writes...
Oh my God, I cannot get over this guy. I'm almost obsessed, I'm attracted to him so much. Problem is, he's a total man-whore! He also smokes like a chimney and has a hammer and sickle tat on his arm (I am so not Communist). I, on the other hand, am saving myself until I fall in love and I hate smoking. Yet, he has some sort of spell over me. I am sexually attracted to him (although I told him that I don't put out, but he still wanted to hang out) and we both admitted we wanted to make out with each other. I've dated a lot of guys and I've NEVER dated a guy that I actually had an urge to kiss - except this dude!
What's the deal? I have never been one of those girls that likes to just make out with guys they aren't dating, but this guy seems to be the exception for me. I know I shouldn't casually make out with him because that would only hurt me later, but I still want to be friends with him because he is so fun and hilarious. What should I do?
Daniel says...
Girls almost always find the "bad boys" at least somewhat attractive. There is something about a guy who has almost nothing in common with them that seems to drive girls wild. But what you must do is remind yourself that you are attracted to the fact that you have nothing in common with them. Yes, it sounds confusing, but for whatever reason, everyone likes a bit of a challenge in their dating life. With this said, there is nothing wrong with befriending someone who seems to not really be your romantic type. You certainly have the right outlook on this friendship, though. As much as your raw attraction to him makes you want to just throw your cares aside and make out with him, it's not a good idea. You are right that you will only end up hurting yourself in the long run. If this guy enjoys hanging out with you, then he shouldn't need to make out with you in order to continue doing so. True friends don't need a carrot dangled in front of them and if he stops hanging out with you, then he's not worth your time. So have a little fun and hang out with this guy, but stick to your guns while you're at it.Tags: ask a guy, advice, relationships, bad boys, your type