Timid

Too Shy to Flirt (Big Sister)

terribly shy, 20 writes...

So here is my dilemma. I see myself as a friendly person. It's not hard for me to talk to guys or get along with them. My problem is, I am almost embarrassed to really flirt with the guys I am interested in. I guess I don't really know how to flirt! What is your advice on sending subtle signals that say "I like you a lot" (NOT "I want in your pants" because I am not that kind of girl). How do I get the ball rolling?!

Ivette says...

Flirting may be really hard especially when you're a timid person. The best way to start a conversation is with a warm smile! You didn't really specify if you would be flirting with a complete stranger or someone close to you. If it's a friend or classmate, start saying hello to him and smiling. You can also start with some small talk and as a day passes kick it up a notch! When you feel more comfortable you can go into a little more physical contact. Sometimes being playful and silly works too, like poking! You can also have more a gentle touch and occasionally touch their arm if you're talking to them or if you're both sitting down gently tap their shoulder or leg. Be playful and fun! If you're approaching a total stranger the first thing you could do is smile! Approach them with confidence and you can compliment how you like their shoes or sunglasses. Try to shine through your personality and create small talk so the guy can engage. If you see he seems more annoyed than amused excuse yourself politely and call it a day (with that guy, of course!) and move on. Believe it or not there are a lot of friendly people out there and will most likely enjoy the talk. If it seems like things are going on smoothly, gently touch their arm and ask them that you would to hang out with them some time. Try to exchange numbers or emails and remember to always introduce yourself! Hopefully these quick tips will help you and any reader out there with the same dilemma! If you think I left something out, feel free to comment below on extra tips and advice!

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