Time To Give Up? (Big Sister)
Nicole?, 14 writes...
A few days ago at a skating rink I saw a guy that I thought was really cute and I decided to ask if he was single. The answer was yes, so we exchanged phone numbers and started talking for a couple of days. Recently I found out my friend talks to him too. He told her that he likes another girl, a girl that he's known longer. Should I give up on liking him? Is it pointless since he likes another girl? And also, how often should you text a guy? If he's never the one to text you first should you still continue texting him or no?
amanda says...
Since this guy has admitted to liking another girl, I would simmer down with the texting. I wouldn't completely give up on him though. He clearly doesn't know you very well yet and who knows, maybe he'll develop feelings despite his current interest in this other girl. I would say stay in touch and just get to know each other. Maybe invite him to a group thing to just hang out. Worst comes to worst, you keep him as a friend. With regard to texting, it's hard to say. I find you have to feel it out with each guy you're dealing with. If he's giving you one word answers and not continuing the conversation, then I would back off. You *could* text him every day if you felt that he was receptive to the texts. Some people don't enjoy text messaging though so there's no exact answer to how often you should text someone. As long as you're not being annoying, then you should be good!
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