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All Girl School Dating Scene? (Big Sister)

Alexandra, 18 writes...

Hey! So in less than a week, I'll be leaving for college. I'm nervous for all of the standard reasons you know, being far from home, being in a place where I don't know anybody. But lately I've been thinking about something else: how am I going to deal at an all-girls' school?! Dating and boys have never really been something I worry about I certainly haven't been on the dating scene much. But now more than ever I feel like I want to find someone special to well share myself with, I guess. But how do I meet guys when I'm going to an all-girls' school? The idea of going "man hunting" really makes me uncomfortable, because, like I said, I'm not that experienced with that kind of thing and... I don't know. The advice I always hear is that I need to just "wait for it to happen". But I feel like that's what I was doing all in high school, and nothing ever happened. I really want some romance in my life. I feel like having a first boyfriend would be a big part of growing up, and I want to do that, rather than just being held back. And... Well, what advice can you give for my situation? I feel like I'll just go on being single forever!

Ivette says...

You won't be single forever. I am sure there will be other campuses around the area that are co-ed that you will be able to interact with. Since you won't be able to make guy friends during class or in school make some gal friends that you can hang out with as a group and go to some parties, movies, to the cafe where they will be other people (especially guys) you can also meet. There is nothing wrong with getting yourself out there and mingle. I know it may be a little awkward for you since you're not really used to it, but go out with an open mind. Also, when you meet guys don't just look for your prince charming but also make some guy friends! Not all the boys you will come across will be good candidates to have a relationship with but some will be able to become decent friends. Don't settle for less, either. It's good to have a good idea of what you want in a guy rather than just jump into a relationship with a guy that's "okay". Don't rush yourself, it's better for you to meet people and get to know them. That's the fun part of dating after all! Have fun and be safe, and I am sure you will find some nice guy out there (even if it seems impossible sometimes).

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To Be Single or Not? (Big Sister)

Anonymous, 17 writes...

My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a year and a half, and I've been starting to feel a bit trapped lately. I've been hanging out with this guy who I've been friends with for ages, and I've always had a bit of a thing for him, but always shrugged it off, since I love my boyfriend. I'm not sure if I should suggest going on a break for a little while, so then I can go out with my friends and be single for a little while, so I can figure out what I really want. I in no way want to hurt him, but I don't know if I can handle feeling like this for much longer. What do I do?

Ivette says...

The best advice I can give you in this situation is to follow your heart. It would be terribly depressing if you were in this relationship when you're not happy in it. Your boyfriend will pick up on your discontent and then there will be two miserable people together when they don't want to be. Usually I would advice if someone is being tempted by a friend to leave their relationship, to just ignore the friend for a while and try to get over their crush. In this particular situation, it doesn't seem the case since you actually miss being single. What does it mean to be single for you? Is there something you miss 18 months ago? Do you think it's worth giving up this relationship for some of the freedoms you don't have right now? What exactly are those freedoms? You have to be able to recognize the risks if you do decide to take a break with your boyfriend. You have to acknowledge that there is a chance that he might not want to get back together, or that maybe you won't. Regardless, if you ask him for a break or break up with him, he will get hurt. I still do not fully understand what you mean by being single and going out with your friends. You can't hang out with your friends right now? What would be different from being in a relationship with your boyfriend and not being in one? I am giving you these questions so you can organize your emotions and thoughts in order to come up with a conclusion. If this is about another boy, make sure you weigh the pros and cons of your decision. If you're just not happy or satisfied with this relationship then its good idea to have some space in between you too so you can see what you truly want. It will be difficult for both of you but if you believe this is for the best then go ahead and do so. Just realize that you might not have a 1.5 year long relationship if you decide to take a break and be "single" for a while.

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Valentine’s Day Woes (Big Sister)

bridget, 15 writes...

I HATE BING SINLGE ON VALENTINE'S DAY! What am I supposed to do?

amanda says...

I don't think anyone really likes to be single on Valentin's Day. It's hard to go to restaurants since they are filled with lovey-dovey couples. But you have to remember, you'll be one of those couples one day. For now, enjoy the day with other dingle friends! Go to the movies (I know the movie Valentine's Day looks super cute) or go to get your nails done! These places won't make you feel bad for being single and should be a lot of fun. You can even have an in-night with your friends and just hang out at home. Heck, have a sleepover. Order pizza and eat lots of candy. You can make the day amazing, but only if you approach it right.

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