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A Lesbian Fantasy (Sex Ed 101)
Moon89, 18 writes...
I have been reading about so many girls that have Wondering's problem. I consider myself completely straight, I like penises, I like men's bodies; other people's vaginas and breasts absolutely disgust me. I would never go down on a girl (I would let a girl go down on me though). But I used to have Wondering's exact problem. When it was time for some self love and so on I could only think of lesbian porn. It frustrated me because I just don't like females and this brought on such confusion about my sexuality. I thought maybe I was bi, but I started to really analyze myself and in time reached the conclusion that I'm absolutely not attracted to women. I wanted to cure myself of these fantasies that only popped into my mind when I was horny, and I started to prevent myself from thinking of them. I made myself think of men when I got turned on and watched porn with the focus being men, and to think grossly of women. Well, it worked, my whole desires focused on the men I've always been attracted to. Or it could have all been a phase of mine, that I slowly got over. I don't know, but I'm happy with myself now. That was my experience about the whole thing but I wonder what could be the root for the many girls who are going through the same thing. I think for me it was the early exposure to porn. I first stumbled on erotic stories when I was 12 or 13 by accident, and it just happened to be lesbian erotica. I was absolutely fascinated by the acts described and soon sought out pictures. And from then on all I saw was naked women. And, of course, the porn industry being a man's industry all the focus was on big boobed, plastic women, so it wasn't hard. Even the industries outside porn, commercials, tv shows, magazines, music videos, which all featured scantly-clad women worked for me. At that time I never encountered porn or other media with the focus being on sexy men. Recently, I read some thing that stated that women are being so sexualized everywhere we look, that women are subconsciously picking up the sex messages and the mentality of being turned on by porn-like images of other women and treating other women like sex-objects. Maybe, if it were the men being sexualized so grossly it would be a very different story?Brittany says...
There are most definitely a variety of reasons that could lead to a woman fantasizing about another woman when she is horny, but it doesn't necessarily mean she's a lesbian, or she's bisexual, or even bi-curious. It's nothing to be ashamed of. Nobody even needs to know, and nobody will know, unless you're telling them, but either way - don't be embarrassed.
Although, I hope that this response helps somebody out and makes some of you feel at ease if you're in this situation. You're not alone!
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The Great Shaving Question (Ask A Guy)
BlueberryPeach, 17 from North Carolina writes...
Why do most guys get so turned on by lesbians?
Do guys prefer a girl's pubic hair shaved?
Daniel says...
To your first question, guys are turned on by lesbians in part because guys are turned on by girls. So why aren't girls turned on by gay guys, you may ask? Well, for starters, some girls are. I will admit they seem to be in the minority, though. The reason is fairly easy to explain, though. Girls are stimulated emotionally and intellectually. Girls tend to be turned on by words and letting their imagination fill in the blanks that remain. Guys, on the other hand, are often stimulated visually. They become interested in things when they see them. For that reason, seeing two girls together will sometimes turn them on. This, combined with the general beauty of the female body explains why many guys find the thought of lesbians being together so enticing.
Guys' preferences regarding a girl's pubic hair are literally as varied as guys themselves. Some guys prefer a girl to have her pubic hair as bald as can be and other guys prefer a robust collection down there. Then there are other guys who prefer any number of artful razor-created compositions. My suggestion to you is to stick with what you are comfortable with. At the end of the day, it's your pubic hair and you have to be both comfortable with how you maintain it and accepting of the amount of effort (or non-effort) that your preference requires. Keep in mind that it's your body and guys should be fairly respectful of it if they're getting to see you with your pants off.
Tags: ask a guy, advice, relationships, pubic hair, shaving, lesbians