Internship

Parent Problems (Big Sister)

Amy, 20 from Canada writes...

I don't know what to do with myself right now. My parents and I have never had a really solid relationship. We would argue a lot about my grades, my friends, my boyfriends and also my involvement in school. I felt like everything I did was never good enough. My boyfriends were never approved of, not matter how nice they were. Recently I had a huge argument with them about internships. I want to go away for mine but I would need some financial help. I would stay in the country but I would like to go to maybe Vancouver. I also wanted to know their opinion about where they think would be best within that area. Anyway, it ended with them yelling at me and telling me I'm speaking down to them just because they didn't go to university... even though I was NOT alluding to that at all. They were definitely putting words in my mouth. So I guess my question is, do you think it's worth it to try and explain this to them? Every time we talk it turns into an argument. I could do this internship with a loan. Should I just take that route?

amanda says...

This is tough and is something I can relate to. I found that my parents weren't always supportive of what I would want to do either. Your internship sounds like a once in a lifetime opportunity and I think you should do whatever it takes to make it happen. My biggest fear is having regrets and I think if you don't go to the place you want, you will definitely regret it. You can try explaining it to them once more time, but I would seriously start looking into loans. Maybe if they see you doing that, they will realize how much you want it. You're clearly making a big decision and you aren't asking them to help support you take a trip to Cuba to be drunk for a week. it's for an internship which will teach you so much and probably make you look really good on your resume. Anyway, try to talk to them one more time, but don't be banking on their money (no pun intended)! Look into loans and have a game plan. this issue with your parents won't resolve itself over night, so start to organize yourself without their help.

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