Homeschooled

Crush and Hormones (Big Sister)

xenyth, 14 writes...

I have a little personal problem and I'm not even really sure this is the right column. I would have posted in the Ask a Guy column, but I wanted a girls opinion. I've been going to a home school group at the local YMCA for two years, and there's this girl there that I think likes me. At first I was like, "ok, another girl, nothing special" and went back to reading. And then last year in March the home school group had a variety show and after it was over the girl walked over and said bye, that was it. Except my mom instantly said, "oh she has a crush on you, she got away from her friends to come say hi by herself." (She usually has at least one friend with her at all times). As is typical of my family, word got out immediately and they bugged me about it for several months. (I can still hear them). Even now, every time her name comes up, someones face lights up like a Christmas tree. And during this time I guess I developed feelings for her. (I say "guess" because I'm at that age where the hormones are so bad that one second I'm happy and the next I'm plotting a murder). So ever since I've wondered if she actually likes me or if I'm actually gonna get to yell "I told you so" at my family. It's gotten so bad that several times I've debated asking her brother, or, god forbid, her. So, what I want to know is, does she actually like me? And how much of these feelings that I have for her are hormones, and how much are actual feelings?

Ivette says...

She might find you interesting or cute, but you can't really know for sure. Some shy girls may be like that but the girl can just be outgoing and say hi to everyone. Your best bet is when next time she comes around and says hi, spark up a little small talk! Ask her about her day, and random stuff like that. If you don't feel comfortable on asking her to hang out right away just wait a bit then. Talk to her when you're comfortable and feel like talking. Be friendly and smile, you can even compliment her top or shoes just to be nice. When you're comfortable, hang out with her and see what goes on from there. You can ask her for her number or facebook (if you know her name just add her) and do most of the talking there so you don't feel like you need to get to know her always in person (sometimes the internet makes it easier for us to socialize). As for feelings go, you never know either. I am telling you, hang out with her and see if you like her not. She may turn out to be some obnoxious snobby girl or the nicest girl you'll ever encounter. The only way is to get to know her and follow your heart.

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