More Than Just Kissing (Big Sister)
sandra, 14 from United States writes...
I want to know about hickeys. How do I give one? And why would someone give them to someone else? My friend had one and it looked kind of gross but everyone in my class thought it was cool. I just want to be prepared!
amanda says...
Hickeys happen when blood is brought closer to the skin's surface, like a bruise. This can be done by sucking your skin. On sensitive areas, it's easier to do. That's why the neck is a common spot to see hickeys. You can try it on your own arm thought if you really want to practice! Usually in the middle of a make out session if you suck and kiss your partner's neck, it can feel really good, They do look kind of gross and can be embarrassing to have on your neck if you are going to be around your family or in a formal occasion. Even going to school with one can be weird, I find. Right now it may seem cool, but you will soon realize that more people try to hide them, rather than show them off. Anyway, some people don't like having their neck sucked that way, so it's something you have to slowly try to incorporate and see how the other person reacts.
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Trust From Mom (Big Sister)
4sure86, 19 writes...
I went out with this guy and ended up coming home with a small hickey on my neck. Though I thought I had covered it up, I guess I didn't do it good enough because my mom saw it!! Embarrassing, much?? So, I want to go out with this guy again, but I need a way to reassure my mom that I still have my values and have gone no further than kissing. Even though I've told her, I don't feel like she believes me. How can I get her to not be upset when I say I'm going out with him again?
amanda says...
Well the fact that you've told her is the first step. Now, you just need to prove it. Don't come home with hickeys anymore, especially if you know your mom is tight about that stuff. You can also have a heart-to-heart and tell her that you trust her and would tell her when you were ready to be taking the next step with a guy. Now, I'm not saying you need to do that. I didn't have that kind of relationship with my mom at first, but it all depends on your comfort level and what you want to share with her. But, at the end of the day, just enjoy your time with this boy. If you are too up in your head about what your mom thinks, then you might miss out on a good thing.
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