Does He Like Me

Does He Like Me? (Big Sister)

lanasgirl19, 15 writes...

There's this guy in my martial arts class who I really like and I'm not sure if he likes me back. I haven't seen him since December because he hurt his hand so he hasn't been able to come to class. The last time I did see him, every time we made eye contact he smiled at me, and sometimes he'll pat me on the shoulder and say, "Good job." I haven't seen him do that to the other girls in my class, and I don't know if he's doing that because he feels comfortable around me and he's being nice, or if he's actually flirting with me. I don't have any luck with guys at all, and if I want to tell him that I like him, which I've never done, but I'm afraid that he won't feel the same way and that he was just being nice. What's going on here? What should I do?

Ivette says...

By the sounds of it, it does appear there is a connection between you two. I would suggest trying to talk to him or hang out with him a bit more to see how he reacts. Exchange emails or phone numbers to text! You don't have to straight out tell him you like him or you think he's cute, try to be his friend first. Next time you see him try to spark a better conversation with him. Asked him about his hand like what happened to it and when is he coming back to class. You can then ask him to hang out for the mean time, for examples "hey maybe we should hang out some time since your hand is hurt and you can't come to class," or "we should do something since I haven't seen you in a while!" This is perfect timing to exchange contact information and maybe see if something happens. Follow along and treat him as a friend, if he flirts a little flirt back as well. Don't fret! Even if he doesn't like you back you can gain a very nice friend to have. Besides, you have nothing to lose when you're asking him to accompany you somewhere. Good luck!

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A School Dance and a Crush (Big Sister)

Emily Rose, 13 writes...

There's this guy in my grade that I've been best friends with for over a year now and recently I've been starting to think of him as more than just a friend. There's a dance at our school soon and I don't know if I should tell him how I feel or just keep quiet. I'm afraid if I tell him how I feel he might not feel the same way and then it'd be weird to hang out together. What should I do?

Ivette says...

I think right now would be the best time to decide if you want to have a boyfriend or not. Yes, you may like home lots, but after you tell him what would YOU like to happen? Would you like to be in a relationship with him or let things just stay the same. If you already decided that it would be nice for him to be your boyfriend and maybe think he likes you too, you should tell him. If you're really not sure how he feels about you maybe it's time to flirt with him a little to see how he reacts. If he flirts back with you then it is likely that he likes you back, if he doesn't then maybe you shouldn't tell him yet you like him since it will definitely change your friendship. Test the waters first! You can tell to some degree that a person likes you without directly telling him or her. Does he smile at you when he sees you in school? Does he behave the same way when he is with his friends? Does he treat you more nice compared to the other girls in your school? Does he make time for you when not in school? These are some simple questions you can ask yourself to evaluate if he likes you or not. Either way, be patient! At this age, it's really tricky for guys to be as emotionally involved as girls are. Good luck!

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