Crying
Comfort From A Good Friend (Sweet Dreams)
~erina~, 14 writes...
I have recently been having a recurring dream where in one of my good guy friends is holding me close while i am bawling. It seems pretty intimate and i have this dream in 3rd person. I haven't had a recurring dream since i was about 6. This dream just confuses me, do you have anything to say about it?Embarr says...
I'm glad you mentioned that this recurring dream has been in third person instead of first person. The specific point-of-view in the dream can make a big difference in the meaning. Since you are seeing yourself this tells us that the situation is more at the surface and that you are probably more familiar with whatever part of you this dream is trying to express.
Now, crying is a physical reaction to pent up emotions finally being released. You should consider what emotions were behind the crying if you want to better understand what these dreams are about. Were you upset, relieved, frightened? By the way you described the dream I get the feeling that whatever the emotions were, they leaned more towards the negative than positive. Your dreams may be trying to release emotions that you are holding back in your waking life. The good guy friend being there, holding you in an intimate way while you cry, seems to suggest this too. The fact that you call him a good friend rather than simply a friend says that you view him as reliable and your subconscious agrees with you enough to make him the important figure in your dreams that helps you work through your emotions.
I think the best thing to do at this point is to calmly think over the emotions of the dreams and ask yourself if there is anything in your life that you have been pushing to the side or suppressing. If there is, maybe you can find a way to released the emotions or thoughts in a healthy way in the real world. The good guy friend may be that healthy way, or someone with characteristics a little closer to how he was portrayed in the dreams. Talking things out has always been a pretty good way to go. Maybe all you need is a more serious, intimate atmosphere like in the dream to let the emotions flow. If the dreams still continue though, there could be some underlying issues which you should then discuss with someone who can help you with them. I hope this helps you on your way to at least a little less confusion.
Tags: sweet dreams, dream, guy friend, crying, intimate
“Please Stop Crying!” (Sweet Dreams)
BlackMetalQueen, 2009 writes...
I had a very odd dream and while I think I figured it out, I should like reassurance. I died and now was a very ethereal, beautiful ghost if you will. I see myself in third person wandering around a house I have never seen before and passing through walls. My family members are mourning for me and I try to go to them and show them that I am not gone, I am right here. I specifically go to my grandmother and my four siblings but also a close friend. Only the close friend could see me and it eased his pain. The rest kept crying, and sobbing and I would scream, "Please stop crying! Oh, please stop! Stop crying!" and they wouldn't. I broke down and tried to cry but couldn't. A mysterious figure appeared and took me on a carriage ride and explained that I could not linger here or else my very soul would die and it would be the most painful thing I could imagine. I couldn't care less, i wanted to console those crying. I went back and tried desperately and despite my efforts, I died that spiritual death, crying and screaming "Please don't CRY!". I woke up with tears streaming down my face. It was nearly too real as most for my dreams are. I believe that this symbolizes my reasoning behind what held me back from suicide a long time ago. I cannot tolerate crying, it hurts me. Seeing them cry uncontrollably for me and not being able to do anything seemed to represent a perspective I could not explain in my conscious thoughts. I believe Mark being the only one to see me is a symbol that I believe he understands my intentions and reasoning though no one else did, but still was terribly sad. Any other insight or corrections would be wonderful!Embarr says...
You have done really well interpreting your dream on your own. When it comes down to it, the meaning and message is all up to you. I cannot correct anything because, to put it bluntly, it's your dream. It's your life. What I can do is offer you some thoughts on your dream and perhaps a few more options to consider. What I have to say could confirm your understanding of this dream even further and/or open up new aspects of it.
Death is a transitional point. In most cultures it is believed to be a moment when we change over from this world to another world. In the case of your dream, from mortal to a ghostly limbo and then a place that is only implied and not seen. Even if a person does not believe this, such cultural beliefs are still in their surrounding environment and therefore available to their subconscious to use in a dream. Your subconscious went as far as having a guide to the "otherworld", which is a common figure in death beliefs of a variety of cultures.
Such a dream could have many sides or layers to it. It's very likely that it represents your reason for not commiting suicide. I think that this dream could express your anxiety over change, big change. Suicide would be considered a big change, but there are a lot of other choices that we have to make in our lives. Many of those choices, we fear, will not get the best reaction from those we care about. This dream may be expressing to you one of your deepest habits, which many of us has. That habit is to hesitate before a big change and turn our gazes back at what we are leaving behind. You see your family crying, and you hate this reaction from them. Some people may be afraid to see reactions of disgust, distrust, ridicule, or hate when they want to make a big change in their lives. You saw one person that seemed to accept your feelings, but that was overpowered by the other reactions you feared.
The mysterious figure's words are something you should consider seriously as you think about this dream. This figure warns you of a spiritual death if you linger too long. I think the biggest problem was that your family couldn't see you which led to your spiritual death in the end. You couldn't make a decision one way or the other because there was a lack of the abilitiy to communicate and you hesitated long enough for the moment to turn lethal. A part of you may be encouraging you to go the next step in your life, to a world that feels as different and new as some sort of afterlife. You may have anxieties over expressing your feelings to loved ones though and the hesitation is hurting you more than them crying ever would.
There can be a variety of layers to a dream. Sometimes they can conflict with one another in odd ways, and sometimes they can go together in even stranger ways. I hope what I have said helps you understand this dream better, whether it is something you agree with or not.
Tags: death, sweet dreams, suicide, dreaming, crying