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I really, really like this guy at my school. I've liked him since last year, but I'm not sure if he likes me. He seems to treat me differently than all the other girls he talks to. He does little things to me like poking me in the stomach, tickling me, and letting me tickle him (that was only once). He hugged me once, and one time he said I was cute. I thought he was kidding because he's sooo cute and popular, and I'm not pretty at all or popular. When I messaged him on Facebook, he didn't even reply. And whenever he sees me, he goes, "shut up." Even if I'm not talking. But he says it with a smile. And he told me that he only does it because I'm too nice and that I won't do anything. Does he like me or is he just being a player?
lanasgirl19 | age 15 | August 31, 2009
Daniel says...
Teenage girls are notorious for having a poor self-image and being unable to realize their true beauty or attractiveness. So when you say you are "not at all pretty or popular," it's tough to know if that is the truth. Regardless of your relative attractiveness, though, it sounds like this guy is being like a normal popular teenage guy.
There are two types of "popular" teenage guys. The first is the type that knows every bit of how cool they are. They are cocky, arrogant, they can get every girl they want, and they know it. Whether or not they are actually attractive, they think they are the hottest thing on the planet. The second is the type that is genuinely nice and, though they may be attractive and able to get any girl they want, they don't exploit that ability. Rather, they are just nice to people who are nice to them and avoid people who aren't. This guy sounds like the second type. He's flirty and fun but he doesn't really appear to be pursuing you. All "popular" guys are confident and able to pursue girls when they want them. If he wanted to pursue you, then you would know it.
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Published on August 31, 2009 by Daniel | Read all recent Ask A Guy articles.