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Kiss and Run
My story's a little bit complicated.
There's a guy at school who is an absolute jerk and yet at the same time, an absolute hottie. He's had three girlfriends in the past two months. Though at first I really liked him, I vowed I would never fall for the charming side of him but I did. I kissed him once, just to see if I really and truly liked him, but I felt nothing. Now, all of the sudden, I see him with another girl and I feel completely jealous and betrayed. I know it's not right because I was the one who vowed to never like him, but I still feel angry at him for even thinking about another girl. I mean, he did kiss me, right?
I spoke to my best friend about it and much my dislike, she told me she felt the same way. For some strange reason, I don't want to even talk to her anymore.
Any advice would help. Please.
Kedia | age 14 | November 2, 2009
Daniel says...
The reason you're so bent out of shape over this is because you're upset with yourself for falling for this guy's games as much as you're truly hurt that this guy doesn't like you. The fact that this guy has had three girlfriends in a mere two months tells you everything you need to know about how special he holds things like kisses. Your personalities and values clearly don't match up and you're better off without him because of it.
It hurts any time your affection is unrequited. This is particularly so when you give something of yourself (like a kiss when that means something to you) in the hopes that the guy feels the same way. Keep in mind that when you see him with another girl and your anger boils a little bit, that his feelings for that other girl are no stronger than his feelings for you. He has proven that he doesn't invest anything in his relationships with girls and he is content to be something of an undiscerning manwhore. Kissing you was an unemotional thing for him and kissing any of those other girls is the same. It hurts, but all this means is that you should be more picky about ho you kiss - make sure they share your values before you decide to kiss them!
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Published on November 2, 2009 by Daniel | Read all recent Ask A Guy articles.