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How Will Sex Change MY Relationship?
Hi guys. My boyfriend and I just had sex last week, (we were both virgins) and I'm worried our relationship will change for the worst. It's not that I have anything solid to base this assumption on, and he hasn't changed the way he acts with me at all. But, and I know this will sound stupid, I was reading some articles about the emotional impact of having sex, and I read how girls will become more clingy and needy, and guys become distant. I'm worried this'll happen with us, because I already am feeling that way. Even my best friend said she's noticed I'm a little more clingy with him. I'm pretty sure I'm worrying way too much about this, but I just love this guy so much, and I don't want this to end up faltering. How do you deal with any changes after having sex? And it IS possible for a couple to work out in our sort of situation, right? Thanks.
Superlove | age 16 | October 1, 2009
Brittany says...
I think you're thinking too much and looking for something wrong in your relationship. If you look for something, especially when it's specfic, you'll convince yourself you're seeing something that isn't there and that's going to cause problems. So relax!
From my experience, having sex with a boyfriend hasn't made me any more clingy or my boyfriends any more distant. And for the most part, I've never noticed my friends having these types of issues with their significant others. SIt down and talk to your boyfriend and explain what you're worried about... guys tend to pick up on things when you start acting all weird (which you will, if you're going to be thinking about what might be wrong), and it's better that you tell him what's on your mind and he can hopefully ease it and make you feel better.
Just relax and have fun in your relationship!
Tags: sex, relationships, boyfriend, girlfriend, distant, clingy
Published on October 1, 2009 by Brittany | Read all recent Sex Ed 101 articles.