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How To: Ask A Guy On A Date
How do you go about asking a guy out on a date?
Jessabell | age 17 | May 30, 2010
Daniel says...
Good question, Jessabell! Every once in a while, it's a good idea to go "back to the basics" and remind people about the right and wrong approaches to things like dating and making a move. The number one thing people need to remember is that when you ask someone on a date, you aren't telling them they are ugly or that their body odor is preventing you from doing your homework. You're paying them a big-time compliment! Keep in mind that even if a guy turns you down or looks surprised or upset, you most likely just caught him off-guard. Rest assured that regardless of a guy's immediate reaction, he will walk away flattered and feeling better about himself after a girl asks him out. And if he doesn't, then he needs to have his head examined!
As for the mechanics of how to actually do it, the most important thing is to be confident. It may look cute if you are shy and stumble over your words, but it will probably be rather ineffective. The next thing you need to do is know what you want to do. Some guys like a girl who will make a move, some guys don't, and other guys don't really care one way or the other. If you're chasing a guy who doesn't like girls to make the first move, then simply asking him out is going to be something of a turn-off. But if you're after either of the other two guys, you don't want to ask the guy out and then reply with "I don't know" when he asks what you have in mind. So pick out a movie you want to see (make sure it's something at least palatable for a guy), a restaurant you'd like to go to, or some other activity around your area to have on the back-burner so you are ready for any possible outcome.
As for doing the actual asking, that's probably the simplest part of all this. All you need to do is walk up to them and say something to the effect of, "Hey, [insert name of victim target], I was wondering if you would like to [insert activity here]." You can make some small talk to work into things if you want, but don't make too much small talk. The more you talk about other things, the less likely you will actually follow through and ask your intended question!
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Published on May 28, 2010 by Daniel | Read all recent Ask A Guy articles.