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All Girl School Dating Scene?

Hey! So in less than a week, I'll be leaving for college. I'm nervous for all of the standard reasons you know, being far from home, being in a place where I don't know anybody. But lately I've been thinking about something else: how am I going to deal at an all-girls' school?! Dating and boys have never really been something I worry about I certainly haven't been on the dating scene much. But now more than ever I feel like I want to find someone special to well share myself with, I guess. But how do I meet guys when I'm going to an all-girls' school? The idea of going "man hunting" really makes me uncomfortable, because, like I said, I'm not that experienced with that kind of thing and... I don't know. The advice I always hear is that I need to just "wait for it to happen". But I feel like that's what I was doing all in high school, and nothing ever happened. I really want some romance in my life. I feel like having a first boyfriend would be a big part of growing up, and I want to do that, rather than just being held back. And... Well, what advice can you give for my situation? I feel like I'll just go on being single forever!

Alexandra | age 18 | August 29, 2009

Ivette says...

You won't be single forever. I am sure there will be other campuses around the area that are co-ed that you will be able to interact with. Since you won't be able to make guy friends during class or in school make some gal friends that you can hang out with as a group and go to some parties, movies, to the cafe where they will be other people (especially guys) you can also meet. There is nothing wrong with getting yourself out there and mingle. I know it may be a little awkward for you since you're not really used to it, but go out with an open mind. Also, when you meet guys don't just look for your prince charming but also make some guy friends! Not all the boys you will come across will be good candidates to have a relationship with but some will be able to become decent friends. Don't settle for less, either. It's good to have a good idea of what you want in a guy rather than just jump into a relationship with a guy that's "okay". Don't rush yourself, it's better for you to meet people and get to know them. That's the fun part of dating after all! Have fun and be safe, and I am sure you will find some nice guy out there (even if it seems impossible sometimes).

Tags: relationships, big sister, college, single, new school, dating scene, all girl school

Published on August 30, 2009 by Ivette | Read all recent Big Sister articles.

Comments by other users

Janet says...

Just for a vote of confidence, I went to a women’s college and had no trouble finding men to date throughout college. I took advantage of the events the local area had to offer (it helped that my college was located in the heart of Pittsburgh, PA) while taking advantage of the unique benefits that a women’s college has to offer. It turned out to be perfect for me. I hope you love your women’s college as much as I loved mine. It turned out to be one the best things I’ve ever done, and positioned me better than I probably would’ve been from a co-ed school in economics and science. A year out of college now, I’m packing my bags for Washington, DC for a highly coveted fellowship with the National Academies. That’s the mark of a women’s college alum right there. And as I said, I suffered no shortage of boys!

August 31, 2009 at 09:25 AM