Big Sister

Imagine the perfect Big Sister. She listens thoughtfully, understands what you’re going through (because she’s been there too!), and won’t rat you out to mom and dad. She takes it all in, and then gives really good advice that you can actually use. Whether your parents provided you with a big sister or not, the perfect Big Sisters are right here and ready to dish out dating advice, love advice, relationship advice, friend advice, family advice, etiquette advice... You get the picture! We know what we’re talking about, and we just love imparting our sisterly advice.

The Green Stuff

So pretty much half the kids at my school smoke weed and so do all my mates. Is it that terrible for you? They always do it and I've refused but I hate being against something I haven't tried. I have not heard anything bad about it. I need help because unless I get a second opinion I feel as if I'll do it soon and I'm not sure if this is the right choice. lilly, 16 from United States

Amanda's advice: Personally, I have never smoked it before. All of my close friends smoke it though. I made the choice a long time ago that it wasn't for me. Besides the fact that it's illegal, it's not the best thing for you. I'm a very athletic person and I know that it can take a toll on not only your brain cells, but your lungs. Also, as part of my university's soccer team they do random drug testing and if the results are positive for marijuana then you get fined and your team loses points.

Now, that's just my side. I know a lot of people who smoke everyday and others who just smoke it casually at parties or whatever and I don't look down upon them for that. It give you a high which many people enjoy. If you don't feel comfortable smoking it, don't. I hate it when people try to pressure you to do things you don' t want to. But know that if they DO judge you because of your choice, then they are not true friends.

I Want a Baby Pt. 2

I am in a bit of a strange situation. For the last year or so I have become so "clucky" and want to have a baby. And not just in the "aww, look, they're so cute way", but I actually want to have a baby. I've always assumed that I would make a career for myself before thinking about settling down with a child. I know how much hard work they are, how my life will dramatically change and so on. My mother had a 12 year gap between me and her last child, so I know what I have to put in. My long term boyfriend says if it is what I really, truly want then he'll think about. Is this something other girls go through? Is it just hormones/worries about the future that are making me feel like this? Am I better off getting a dog? Sara , 20 from Nevada, USA

Sunny's advice: Are you kidding?! OF COURSE other girls go through this! Ever since my nieces were born I have been having a physical struggle every single day to put my birth control into my mouth. Okay, maybe not that bad, but it's not far off. Our hormones are kicking off BIG TIME at this age, because our bodies are probably in perfect condition for child bearing. Plus there is all the worry about the future that we all have at this age. However we must fight the urge until we are emotionally and financially (I can't stress that one enough!!) ready, not just physically ready. Work on making yourself happy before you bring a baby into the world. Establish yourself a career, TRAVEL, do all the things that you're not going to be able to do when you have children. You have to be responsible on this one, and believe me, both you AND your child are going to be so much happier if you feel like you've lived appropriately before getting pregnant. I myself would hate to think that my existence limited my mom from enjoying her youth (not that that's true in every case, but if she wasn't ready for me then it can be). Your baby is probably the same. Go out and live! Party (but not too hardy)! You're not even old enough to drink yet! Babies will come later.

It's All Coming Back To Me...

Hey! First, I wanted to say that I love this page! All three of you girls are great! Anyway, I keep having dreams about my ex-boyfriend who I dated for a year. I know we are not meant to be together but maybe the dreams are a sign for me to give it another shot? I haven't talked to him in the longest time ... do you think I should start? Tammy, 16 from United States

Amanda's advice: I don't think the dreams are meant for you to get back together with him. You said you know that you're not meant to be together and those are some pretty strong words. I think the dreams are trying to tell you something. The fact that you haven't talked to him in a while may be it. After dating someone for a long period of time (like you did) you can become very close. I'm not sure if you ended really badly, but maybe you should try talking to him again. Not in hopes of getting back together, but fixing the way you left off. Maybe you are needing closure? Are you unhappy with the way you left off? Dreams are linked with the subconscious sometimes, so what do you think has been kind of on your mind about him (if anything). I hope this helps!

PS. Glad you like the page! Thanks for reading it!

Is life getting you down? Are you having boy (or girl) troubles? Or do you just want reassurance on something that you're not so sure about? No matter what problem you're experiencing, your Big Sisters are always happy to help you out! So feel free to ask for guidance! How about comments and criticisms? We're here to help you and would love to hear what you like about our page or what you would change about it.

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